I know that sounds like a crazy question, but it’s a relevant one. Are you afraid of you? Of your goals? Of your potential? Let’s face it, most of us are. If this is you, don’t feel bad. I have struggled with this battle myself. As a matter of fact, at one point in my life it was a recurring theme.
When we find our purpose in life, we also tend to find our fear. Often times they are birthed from the same place. When we realize what our goals in life are, there is something within us that causes us to commit “self-sabotage”. We begin to see our goals as unrealistic or too hard to obtain. Most of the time that is the furthest thing from the truth, but our minds make it seem like this is the reality. When this happens, we begin to doubt ourselves. We doubt our dreams, we doubt the work we put in, and we doubt our chances of success. Because of this, we fail before we even begin.
There have been times in my life that my mind has paralyzed me. It has stopped me from becoming the very person that I knew I was. My mind kept saying, “You can’t do this, you can’t do that. That dream is too big, it will take you forever to meet that goal.” “You will never make it.” Does this sound familiar? It happens to the best of us. It may have happened to you. It most definitely happened to me. The best advice I can give you when it comes to this type of “purpose killer” are these three tips:
1. Get out of your head.
Sometimes we have to stop over thinking things. When we spend so much time on all the things that could go wrong, we lose sight of all the things that are going right. It is fine to organize and execute according to plan, but being too critical will often deter you and make you doubt that you can complete your goal. Focus on the positive and the headway you’ve made so far. Execute, review, correct, repeat and always keep moving forward.
2. Don’t be afraid to start over. Once we have a goal, we tend to plan everything out and follow our steps to the letter, but what happens when that doesn’t work? I speak with people all the time who have given up on ideas because it didn’t work the first time. You have to be okay with starting over. Several paths lead to the same destination. Just because your original plan didn’t work doesn’t mean the whole idea needs to be scrapped. Regroup and choose another path. Make another plan to accomplish your goal. Simple as that.
3. The Follow-Through.
Once you have your plan worked out, you must realize that is just the beginning. You have to follow through, and let’s face it, that is normally a lot of work. I have had many project ideas die because I didn’t do the work to make them successful. I understand for most of us this project will not be the only thing we have going on in our lives, but you have to make time if you want it to succeed. Time is something we never seem to have enough of and juggling priorities can be hard, but the amount of work you are willing to put into your dream shows how bad you want it. That hard work will be reflected in your project. Input = Output. Period!
For most of us, finding our purpose has taken time, so once you’ve discovered it you have to be bold enough and willing enough to move forward in it. Sure there will be many ups and downs, such is life. But remember at the end of it all you will see your dream manifested and you will be so happy that you took that one step forward to make it all happen.
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