Every now and then, I feel like I am super woman, so much so that I believe that I can take on any task that comes my way. Although this may be true in some cases, the issue comes when I over-do it and I find myself “over-doing” it quite often. “Can you do this?” -Yes! “Can you do that?”- Absolutely! While smiling on the outside, my mind, body and spirit is yelling at me on the inside- “Girl! Why didn’t you just say NO?” No? What’s that? No- is a powerful two letter word and if used correctly, it can be quite beneficial. It also something that I have struggled with using. I have started practicing the at of saying “No” and although I have not fully mastered it’s power, I have made a few discoveries that may help others:
Saying “No” can allow your mind to get the rest that it needs and requires.
Funny enough, saying No DOES NOT, I repeat DOES NOT kill anyone. It may hurt a few feelings and bruise a few egos but by no means does it cause irreversible DEATH.
Saying “No” Allows you the time to get what you need to do done.
Saying “No” Demands a respect that so many people do not freely give.
Saying “No” Does not make you a terrible person, it makes you human.
People who know that you are a ‘Yes” person will take advantage, often asking things of you, that they know for a fact they would not do. Saying “No” will be hard initially to master but the more it is practiced the better you will become at it. The less stress you will encounter and the more respected will you be.
I’m not trying to encourage asshole behavior, but simply advising people to be more cognizant of their own well-being and if saying “No” sometimes is what’s needed to accomplish that, then by all means say it! At the end of the day, the other person will live and so will you! Try it! LOL!